The stages of a teenage relationship | Phil Wang – Grade 10

Young people in love Dating in high school can be rough. What are your tips for navigating young love?
  • The start of a relationship always begins with a crush
  • The “I love you” period can be extreme for teenagers
  • The Honeymoon phase is best and the worst period during a relationship

People often hear the phrase, “a woman’s heart is like a needle in the sea”, but actually, there is another group of people whose hearts are harder to examine: teenagers in relationships. Most parents of teenagers have trouble understanding their children’s feelings, which makes children flee their homes and the parents have to call the police. There are four phases and two endings in a relationship, and teenagers have different feelings and actions during these periods.

The Crush Phase

The start of a relationship always begins with a crush. No crush, no love. Teenagers often feel shy and embarrassed because their hearts beat fast when they see the crush or when they hear other people talking about the crush. They feel anxious about what the crush is doing at every moment, and feel secretly excited when they take a step near the crush. However, the crush might feel smothered by the signals from the “crusher” because love can make people act strange and do things they normally wouldn’t, like send 10 text messages or write bad poetry. Parents might have had the same feelings when they were teens, but all things are wiped away by time, so parents forget the feelings of having a crush, the sweet and sour tastes of love, and the passion to find a true love.

The “I Love You” Phase

After the crush comes the “I love you” phase. In this instance, assume we are talking about a boy having a crush on a girl. During this period, the boy will pick up his courage and tell the girl that he loves her, and, if the girl is impressed by what the boy has done, a new couple appears, and if not, the boy will certainly feel heartbreak and either make a second attempt later on or weep in the bathroom all day long. This period can be extreme for teenagers since the intersection leads to either heaven or hell, and a wrong step can ruin the dream of becoming a couple. Parents can feel tension in their children during this period but do not know why. They ask about what is happening, but the irritable kids almost never give any answers. This stresses the situation between both sides, and teenagers have concerns about both school and their homes.

The Honeymoon Phase

Next is the Honeymoon phase. This is the best and the worst period during a relationship. The couple feels love, pride, and confidence while they are holding hands, showing everyone how much they love each other. Both sides feel secure and sweet because they know someone cares about them and loves them as much as their parents. However, there are also worries that exist. Both sides are scared about the other side having an affair, so any messaging with another boy or girl will be seen as betrayal. This is when jealousy, frustration, and insecurity take place. Sordid celebrity affairs on gossip TV news are extreme examples of these feelings. The celebs hurt their other half in order to stay together forever, but this is not love anymore, this is desire. Parents may feel that their children have suddenly made a very good friend, but they do not know why, and when they ask children about their new paramour, the teen often avoids answering any of the questions.

The Burnt Out Phase

Finally comes the burnt out phase. This counts as the end of the Honeymoon phase because both sides lose interest in the other, and most couples break up. At this time, teenagers feel impatient, dried out, and stressed towards the other half either because of the lack of interest or dislike towards the bad habits of the other half. The relationship becomes unstable and all the ridiculous scenarios in soap operas happen in real life. Teenagers during this period are the most unreasonable creatures on Earth. If one side gets another boy or girlfriend, the other side feels betrayed, and revenge plans start to pop out into their minds, making them the most dangerous animal that ever existed.

(Warning: We do not want any tragedy to happen, so if you have any thought of hurting your boy/girlfriend, please ask an adult for help or something.)

The Freedom of Breaking Up

Due to the burnt out phase, couples have to make a choice between breaking up or learning to accept each other again. It is very hard to like each other again, but if this is the case, the relationship will last for a very long time because the couple’s relationship becomes super stable after overcoming this huge obstacle. But in most cases, the couple breaks up and feels the extravagant taste of freedom. The feeling of freedom will impact those teenagers for a long time until they feel lonely again. They stop looking at text messages every second and spend more time hanging out with friends. Parents feel like their children are willing to communicate with them again, and the gaps between the parents and the children are overcome.

Finding Another Half

There is another ending after the couple breaks up: finding another boyfriend or girlfriend. This is also a common way of ending a relationship because one side of the couple gets bored of the other side and wants to find a new taste. For some reason, the side finding the other half is often the boy but not the girl. The news always talks about which celebrity is having an affair again, and the celebrity is seldom a female. In the end, the betrayed side will be very depressed and devastated.

Relationships during adolescence do not last long. It is a waste of time to put too much effort into them. However, having some relationship experience can help in dealing with different kinds of situations when kids grow up, and also help when deciding who they want to spend the rest of their lives with. Teenagers have the most sensitive feelings, especially during relationships, and these feelings contribute to the development of their personality and future.

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