If you’re reading this, there’s a high possibility that you’re a boy, extremely offended, and want to see what I have to say. Well, don’t worry. I’m talking about boys who treat girls or women like objects and property. I’m talking about those who sexually harass girls like it’s a normal thing to do.

Why boys behave poorly

First, I would like to explain why, at least in my opinion, these guys treat women this way. I have many friends who fit the description, and I have come up with some possible reasons.

Nothing happens out of nowhere. Their disgusting behavior they have didn’t just naturally come out of them. They must’ve learned it from someone, and that someone is their fathers. Most of them have been watching their fathers verbally or mentally abuse their mothers since a very young age. If not, they’ve picked up this behavior from other boys who did. Their fathers may have a lot of mistresses or treat their mothers as objects.

Here is an example. A classmate has been treating women like objects. He would very often manipulate women into thinking they have to be with him, then dumping them brutally, one after another. I never corrected him because he is really sensitive. When I thought about it, I realized that it might have something to do with his father. His mother is a mistress of his father, and they never got married. He grew up in a household where his mother was treated like a “dish-washer”, so he had felt like this was the right way to treat a woman.

Here’s another example. A boy that I’ve known for a long time is slowly turning into the type of trash that objectifies women. And why? He grew up in an abusive household. Not abusive to him, but abusive to his mother. The mother of the family was just for, let’s say reproduction, and she was nothing besides that. This guy I knew turned from a sweet little boy to a monster who objectifies women and thinks women deserve to be treated abusively by men to get them to do what they want.

Traits of trashy boys

So, here are some traits these boys have. First, they love to sexualize girls. In my school, these guys touch girls in front of their boyfriends, comment on their bodies and looks, and make inappropriate jokes.

The girls, on the other hand, don’t usually stop them. Because of social pressure and the need to be liked, they just let them sexualize their bodies and laugh along. However, this does not mean it’s the girl’s fault at all. A girl not saying no, or saying it in a gentle way, does not mean yes. A guy should always treat women with respect under any circumstances.

Nonetheless, these boys also are disrespectful to many people, such as the LGBTQ community. They make jokes about them, laughing at them for being “different” than they are, and choose to not accept who they are. This is unacceptable, because people from the LGBTQ community should be treated with equal respect even if they are different from these boys. No one should receive unequal treatment for who they are. These boys also enjoy commenting harshly on the LGBTQ community or even acting violently towards people who are part of this community, which is totally wrong. Sadly, many boys are like this.

Bad excuses for bad behavior

One might argue and say that “they’re just boys being boys” or “they’re too young to understand”, however, these are just naive excuses made up for them.

Saying “they’re just boys being boys” is like saying “boys were born to be sexist towards women”, and that is a false statement. There are plenty of guys who treat women with respect, so gender shouldn’t be an excuse.

Saying “they’re too young to understand” is also an invalid excuse. These boys are usually between 14 and 18, which is the perfect age for a person to start understanding how everyone should treat one another with respect and how men are definitely not superior. In fact, they should have understood a long time ago.

Why boys are trash

Every boy that fits my description is trash. They are immature and feel the need to sexualize women to make themselves feel better. By sexualizing women, they feel more powerful, like they are in control of our bodies, what we do, and what we say. However, they are pathetic losers for thinking this way, because they don’t own women. However, I also feel extremely bad for them. They have grown up and spent their childhood in a terrible place. They should be educated and taught the values of being a respectful person.

How to fix the problem

Of course, I’m not here to write an article bashing them and then leaving it there. I have come up with some possible solutions that may solve the problem of, well, them.

One of the solutions is to educate them. We could start by teaching them how to properly respect others, regardless of their sex. However, even if we educate them in school, they still have bad influences at home. We should start educating the mothers of those children as well. Many women marry into abusive families for one reason and one reason only – money.

Women who are abused in families should learn how to stand up for themselves since the father is probably a bigot whose mind can’t be changed. Men often abuse their wives because they know she wouldn’t stand up for herself, and that is why women should learn how to stand up for themselves in that kind of situation. They can start by taking simple defense classes, then over time, they can learn more advanced techniques. By educating those women to stand up for themselves, maybe the son of the family will understand how women can, in fact, be her independent self.

Another solution is that society should provide better role models. Whether on social media or celebrities, many chauvinistic ideas are common. Some popular used ones are how women should stay home and do the chores or how it’s always the man that saves the day. This may lead these boys into thinking men are better than women in general and women are just objects. By showing them better examples, the boys may change for the better.

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In conclusion, these boys are indeed terrible, but there are still ways to change them. If you’re reading this and you fit the description, please change yourself because you are disgusting. Thanks.